Thriving in Love
& Intimate Partnership
Learning to Love (and be loved!) made easy and enlivening!
THRIVING VS. SUCCESS
We have a deep longing to love and to be loved. Unfortunately, we have been poorly taught in our Disney/instant gratification culture and believe we should strive for success. That is a grave mistake that lures us again and again to chasing fleeting moments of ecstasy or perfection — like a moth towards a lamp — to disappointing, disconnecting, and too often disastrous results.
Success (read perfection) is UNattainable! Thriving stems from gratitude and leads to real contentment. Thriving stems from doing what really serves us and doing it with curiosity and playfulness.
Don’t get us wrong! We are not saying you need not work on your relationship! We are inviting you to do the work for the work, for your partner, for love… and not to get something from it, not to get anywhere next, BUT because your couple (even when you are at odds with each other!) is like a beautiful flower you need to water, expose to the sunlight it needs, and protect it from harsh elements.
INTIMACY IS TO BE PRACTICED
INTIMACY IS THE JOURNEY
(not the destination)
We invite you to join us to rewire your nervous system and learn to thrive in love. Yes, some striving is involved. But only some! We will re-ignite the curiosity and passion you experienced when you first met. We will practice the key competencies to being happy in love. And more importantly we will do so with wisdom and levity!
WHAT WILL WE PRACTICE?
We could give you here a long enticing list. It is NOT the length of the list that counts, but that we go for the essentials, for what will truly transform your couple, for what you will not say “Oh it was a nice retreat!” but will practice purposely when you get back home!
Sooooo…What are we going to practice and play with?
Listening and attuning with empathy
Expressing emotions, wants, needs and boundaries so our partner fully hears us
Understanding needs: ours and our partner’s
Practicing responsiveness vs. reactivity
Celebrating vibrant Masculine strength and structure AND Feminine beauty and flow in ourselves and in our partner
WHY HAPPY COUPLES PLAY TOGETHER?
This retreat WILL transform your love life, through teaching you how to bring curiosity and playfulness even in challenging moments, through inviting you to create secure attachment with your partner, and through learning to see yourself, your partner and your couple as a gift.
Yes, a gift! We are not promising it will be easy. We are promising it will be rewarding!
The real reason intimacy is challenging is that it burns us if we are not trained and practiced. Are you ready to end the cycle of disconnection and disrespect?
FOR SINGLES AND COUPLES
This retreat is for singles (who want to become the best partner they can be in order to attract a worthy mate) as well as for couples (who want to improve their relationship… and also become the best partner they can be!)
It is NOT for the faint of heart. As you have experienced again and again, love it treacherous. The journey is fraught with obstacles. BUT… if you decide to sign up it is because you are choosing to get real, to step up, to become more authentic and mature in your longing and expression of intimacy.
We limit attendance to 12 for focused learning.
WHY SIGN UP?
Do we really have to answer that question?!!!
Our Disney/porn culture only points to 1% of what is possible. This means signing up will give you insights into and access to:
100X the joy of being together
100X the capacity to transform conflict into play
100X the daylong connection with each other
100X the making each and every simple daily act of life an intentional act of foreplay
AND 100X the pleasure in your sacred intimacy garden
WHEN + WHERE
The retreat starts Friday, May 23 rd at 6pm and ends Sunday, May 25 th at 4:30pm. We will meet IN PERSON at a retreat center within an hour+ drive from SeaTac International Airport (exact location will be disclosed as we get closer to the retreat). Meals and lodging are not included.
A SPECIAL NOTE TO WOMEN
We live in a world in which, disastrously, women get devalued, objectified, taken for granted, and too often used. All of us (men and women) acquired many inhibitions as we grew up due to traumatic abuse and developmental trauma (what we needed but didn’t receive). By now you most likely have freed yourself of some or many.
This is NOT therapy and NOT a return-to-the-kitchen retreat! This retreat is an invitation for you to learn to show up fully as a powerful woman in full ownership of your femininity, joy and turn on, knowing you are a gift he needs (even when he seems disconnected), who zealously (and generously) practices disinhibit-izing yourself and your man in the sacred intimacy cauldron of your relationship.
A SPECIAL NOTE TO MEN
We live in a world in which, very sadly, men get punished for being men. This is NOT a kumbaya retreat designed to make you into a peaceful Nice Guy, a honey-do-list provider. If you have attended such couples counseling or retreat, we hope you have remained curious and have not closed yourself to a better and more joyful relationship with your spouse.
This retreat is to invite you to show up fully as a powerful man who knows himself and is proud of his Masculine strength, who chooses intimacy when appropriate, who protects and provides for her real needs, who knows he is a gift she needs (even when she resists), and who leads his woman skillfully to ecstatic surrender in their sacred intimacy garden.
