Learning to play as a couple opens the heart to new ways of being together, takes the edge off daily struggles, lessens the need to blame others for one’s own suffering, and strengthens relationship confidence.
WHAT IF
You could lighten up that burden and transform it into a curious exploration?
WHAT IF
You could lubricate the areas of your relationship that have been increasingly squeaky or stuck by learning to be more playful about them?
WHAT IF
Play could transform an OK couple experience to a delightful one, filled with joy, curiosity and aliveness?
WHAT IF
You are not in a relationship — and are searching for a mate to co-create a deeply loving and fulfilling partnership with?
Alchemists transform lead into gold. We do not have the power to transform your relational problems into pure bliss…
But we can help you transform the nature of your relationship from a glass half-empty to a glass half-full. Your partner will still have flaws and you will still have conflicts — but you will know that they fully have your back, that you can count on them when you need them, that they can navigate adversity with you as a team, that they can own their own wounds so you can help each other heal, and that you can transform daily chores into playful gifts to each other.
We are present- and future-oriented! We don’t shy away from problems, history or trauma. We simply do not try to solve them in the past. We focus on creating alternate solutions towards a more alive present and happier times to come.
We are appreciative! By creating new and more playful ways of relating, we increase our ability to meet each other in ways that support each other, we trigger each other less and less, we loosen old patterns that tend to build up resentment, and we are able to see more and more clearly the constructive intent of our partner.
We firmly believe happiness is the purpose of our human lives. A key element of happiness is freedom from suffering. Freedom doesn’t mean eradication of suffering — it means freedom from it! Your partner may still behave the same way, but their behavior will affect you less. Not because you don’t care, but because healthy differentiation brings freedom to you and healing to your relationship.
POLITICAL CORRECTNESS
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What matters to us at Happy Couples is the quality of your connection and the strength of partnership — whether you are married or not, straight or gay, gender-identified or gender-fluid, flowery or striped, brightly colored or shades of grey.
We believe everyone deserves the opportunity to experience couple happiness — whether you are in your first, third, or seventh partnership.
We have confidence that investing in one’s relationship is the best gift we can give ourselves and our partner — whether you have been together days, months, years, or decades.
And,
We are convinced that the best way we can support you and your relationship happiness
is through PLAY!
I was interested to access the more playful side of me as I tend to be quite serious and not prioritize time for genuine play. Being in a good place in my relationship I wasn’t really sure how much I could learn. Valdo’s experience, his passion and coaching skills helped me rekindle a more playful vision of life and my relationship altogether. I remembered I love to play and that it’s important to set time for connection, since the stuff of life tends to get in the way… I wish I learned these skills years ago!! — Maxime, Aix-en-Provence, France |
I was interested to access the more playful side of me as I tend to be quite serious and not prioritize time for genuine play. Being in a good place in my relationship I wasn’t really sure how much I could learn. Valdo’s experience, his passion and coaching skills helped me rekindle a more playful vision of life and my relationship altogether. I remembered I love to play and that it’s important to set time for connection, since the stuff of life tends to get in the way… I wish I learned these skills years ago!! — Maxime, Aix-en-Provence, France |
Our Ideal Clients
Though it may sound strange (as we are selling relationship happiness!): our ideal clients are couples who are not seeking happiness as a direct result of coaching sessions — but deeper awareness and connection. Life is infinitely simpler being single… but not as full… and it is that richness of interaction-friction-joyful moments-conflicts-regrets-lovemaking-apologies-repairs that give rise to the possibility of being aware, appreciative, and alive.
Our clients are functional adults who have invested significant time, resources, and creativity in personal development and in their relationship. And they know that it is the growing and healing together that brings the utmost happiness (we do sell relationship happiness after all!).