THRIVING IN LOVE
& INTIMATE PARTNERSHIP
Learning to Love made easy and enlivening!
THRIVING VS. SUCCESS
We have a deep longing to love and to be loved. Unfortunately, we have been poorly taught in our Disney/instant gratification culture and believe we should strive for success. That is a grave mistake that lures us again and again to chasing fleeting moments of extasy or perfection –– like a moth towards a lamp –– to disappointing, disconnecting, and too often disastrous results.
Success (read "perfection") is UNattainable! Thriving stems from gratitude and leads to real contentment. Thriving stems from doing what really serves us and doing it with curiosity and playfulness.
Don’t get us wrong! We are not saying you need not work on your relationship! We are inviting you to do the work for the work, for your partner, for love… and not to get something from it, not to get anywhere next, BUT because love is like a beautiful flower you need to water, expose to the sunlight it needs, and protect it from harsh elements.
INTIMACY IS A SKILL
INTIMACY IS TO BE PRACTICED
INTIMACY IS THE JOURNEY (not the destination)
We invite you to join us to rewire your nervous system and learn to thrive in love. Yes, some striving is involved. But only some! We will re-ignite the curiosity and passion you experienced when you first met. We will practice the key competencies to being happy in love. And more importantly we will do so with wisdom and levity!
WHAT WILL WE PRACTICE?
We could give you here a long enticing list. It is NOT the length of the list that counts, but that we go for the essentials, for what will truly transform your couple, for what you will not say “Oh it was a nice retreat!” but will practice purposely when you get back home!
Sooooo…What are we going to practice and play with?
WHY HAPPY COUPLES PLAY TOGETHER?
This retreat WILL transform your love life, through teaching you how to bring curiosity and playfulness even in challenging moments, through inviting you to create secure attachment with your partner, and through learning to see yourself, your partner and your couple as a gift.
Yes, a gift! We are not promising it will be easy. We are promising it will be rewarding!
The real reason intimacy is challenging is that it burns us if we are not trained and practiced.
FOR SINGLES AND COUPLES
There are more and more men who are becoming conscious. Of course, all of them because they do their work to heal their childhood wounds and become the King they aspire to be. But also, because they meet their Queen and decide she is worth doing the work for and worth doing the work with.
This retreat is for singles (who want to become the best partner they can be in order to attract a worthy mate) as well as for couples (who want to improve their relationship… and also become the best partner they can be!)
It is NOT for the faint of heart. As you have experienced again and again, love it treacherous. The journey is fraught with obstacles. BUT… if you decide to sign up it is because you are choosing to get real, to step up, to become more authentic and mature in your longing and expression of intimacy.
We limit attendance to 12 for focused learning.
WHY SIGN UP?
Do we really have to answer that question?!!!
Our Disney/porn culture only points to 1% of what is possible. This means signing up will give you insights into and access to:
INVESTMENT
The financial investment is $900 for singles or $1,200 for couples.
We offer an early bird rate of $780 (a $120 savings) for singles and $1,020 (a $180 savings) for couples if you sign up by May 3rd, 2025 (3 weeks prior to the retreat).
The financial investment is only the visible part of the iceberg. The REAL investment is the time and the love and the goodwill and the skills and the playfulness you will create AS A RESULT for your couple.
WHEN AND WHERE
The retreat starts Friday, May 23rd at 6pm and ends Sunday, May 25th at 4:30pm. We will meet at a retreat center within an hour+ drive from SeaTac International Airport (exact location will be disclosed as we get closer to the retreat). Meals and lodging are not included.
A SPECIAL NOTE TO MEN
This is NOT a kumbaya retreat designed to make you into a peaceful Nice Guy, a honey-do-list provider. If you have attended such couples counseling or retreat, we hope you have remained curious and have not closed yourself to a better and more joyful relationship with your spouse.
This retreat is to invite you to show up fully as a powerful man who knows himself and is proud of his Masculine strength, who chooses intimacy when appropriate, who protects and provides for her real needs, who knows he is a gift she needs (even when she seems to resist), and who leads his woman skillfully to ecstatic surrender in their sacred intimacy garden.